Birth & Marriage: The Happiness of Life

Today I (Ethan Stranger) will be discussing a topic that I’m sure that most people are unaware of (or are aware of, but don’t wanna bring it up) & that involves our life goals & the way we try to achieve happiness in the time that we have on this earth, so let's get right into it, shall we?

The first thing to know is what are life goals...well life goals can be anything (depends on what you as a person wanna do with your life) cause everybody has their own goals that they want to pursue in life (meaning it’s not the same for everybody). Remember, it’s ok to think in a different way (especially if you’re on the spectrum like me, Ethan Stranger). For a long time, I’ve felt like I’ve been struggling in thinking & doing things just like everybody else, without really taking the time to reconcile my own goals and ambitions with reality. I’ve often feel like I get ignored or people just brush off my ideas without really considering them and that made me feel betrayed. In time, I started to think of why this was happening, why did most of my ideas get turned down almost instantly? And then it hit me, maybe it's not them or me, maybe it's that some of my ideas aren't really based on what they perceive is reality - if our perceptions are different, then we won't be able to see eye to eye. That’s why I’m currently trying to see reality for what it is, not what I want it to be! (this is very difficult to do).

On this particular topic, I’ve also often felt that I’m on a different path in finding happiness than my Neurotypical friends, but I'm starting to realize that everyone, and I mean everybody, is on their own unique and different path to happiness (understanding that happiness isn't actually a real and permanent state of being) & that we all have different struggles. 

Read more on this graph about the 4 basic steps (Picture, Below) that most people think are necessary to happiness within life itself, however. We know better, there's not just one path, there's many.  Read more on my Ethan Stranger has a Dream Post to learn more about what I feel true happiness really is.      

(Some people think that this is it! But we know better...) 

In Life, one of the so-called joys of life is...Marriage and Birth (the idea of bringing a newborn into the world isn’t a crime, it gives you the chance to continue your legacy, that so-called family tree),  however, there are consequences for those you want to get married at a young age & have a child too soon, not knowing their next move within the next chapter of the life. Moves like these can either lead to divorce or parents being extremely harsh toward their child (or kids), which leads them to grow up in a negative way. A perfect example from a fantasy world would be Beatrice & Butterscotch Horseman, for they came from different backgrounds, both were young & ever since Bojack came into the world, they became more spiteful, poisoning their son’s environment). 

In my opinion, throughout everything I’ve been through so far within the crazy game of life, I feel like it's everybody’s being pointed toward the idea of getting married & having a child by society, TV and social media. This is literally the reason why I’ve been watching the Netflix Series, Love on the Spectrum, for I’ve learned that there are others like me who’ve struggled in finding love.I think that the most important thing I’ve learned is that everyone needs to go at their own pace and that, in a relationship (be it a romantic or just a friendly one) we are not the most important person, we need to be able to see the value in others and act accordingly - reciprocity is key in every single human relationship out there.

While I do dream of having a child of my very own, it’ll be at my own time (maybe I can rip a page from Andy Cohen Book, who ended up adopting a child, Picture, Left Corner), so that’s that either, I adopt or try to have a baby in marriage, I have no real clue on what Life has in store for me, And I think that that applies for everyone. All in all, happiness is what we make of it, not what others say, not what others expect, and definitely, not what we can see on social media or movies. So remember, Don’t stop dancing...until the curtains fall (just like the song):

(Ethan Stranger Signs off..Alongside Sarah Lynn) (both not before sharing these quotes, even Spidey has one):

“The beautiful thing about life is - our plan for what we want and where we see ourselves is constantly changing. What's most important is to be open-minded, flexible, and most of all- RESILIENT! Go after what makes your heart sing! Keep up the exploration of life and try to stay in the present; we all want to know our purpose and where we will end up and what we will do with our lives, but what is the point of it all if we can't enjoy the wild ride that is right here and now? Make each day beautiful, knowing your purpose is to love and care for others (because you are so great at that), and the rest will fall into place, as it always does!” 

-Desi LeRoy 😊        

“Don’t overthink life, It has just started, it will surprise you. Do what you love, tons of people are struggling, but we’re the kind of people to stay Happy” - Michael N. 😊